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Mercy, Mercy Me! (Help! The Preacher is Trying To Holla)

Dating & Relationships / June 28, 2012

 I have a friend who is a preacher.  We used to date about 15 years ago when he was just a PK (Preacher’s Kid). Today, he is divorced and has taken over his father’s church.  We talk every now and then and his conversation is usually about getting married and having babies.  Ummm…PUMP YOUR BREAKS, PREACHER MAN! Now don’t get me wrong, he is a very nice man, educated, handsome, has a good job, all that good stuff BUT he is a PREACHER!

I know some of you, who follow my blog, have read about my “list” of the things I want in a mate.  Yes, he meets most of them BUT he is a preacher! There is nothing wrong with being a preacher, but how do you “date” a preacher?  It’s bad enough that he makes comments about sex, etc and I always respond, “You will NOT lead me to hell,” when in reality I am more worried about me being a temptress and leading him to hell.  (Don’t judge me!  I’m being honest here!)
By now, you all know that I am not a Saint and I try to do the right thing, however, the question still remains, “How does one DATE a preacher?”  Do you allow him to kiss you good night and if you do, does he kiss you on the lips or the forehead?  I know that he is still a man, although he is a preacher but there are some things that you just can’t say or do with a man of God.  For instance, sex, you can’t do that with a preacher!!  I know some of you are laughing, while others may be shaking your heads, but I am serious!  You don’t buy a car without test driving it first, right?  I have to know exactly what I am getting myself into.  Let’s just say that we dated for a long period of time, got engaged and married without ever having sex and then the sex was wack?  Is that grounds for divorce?  To me it is! I don’t want to go through the rest of my life having wack sex! I know some of you will argue that sex isn’t everything.  Those people are probably the same ones that have never had good sex or have decided to settle for wack sex in exchange for other things in a marriage. I’m sorry but I don’t think, excuse me…I KNOW that I could not do that!  Plus, could you see me as the church’s First Lady?  We would end up without any members because of my mouth!  Sounds awful but I am being completely honest!!
I recently heard from a friend who basically said, “You are single by choice because it’s definitely not from lack of choices.”  This is true and I know that I am very picky but I think that my fear of dating a preacher is that I am not completely “right” with the Lord and I don’t want my bad habits to rub off on him.  I don’t want to tempt or corrupt a man of god, therefore, I have chosen to ignore the preacher’s flirting and decided that we should just remain friends.  That way, my conscience is clear and I don’t go to hell for being the snake that tempts the preacher to just take a bite of my apple.




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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on June 29, 2012

Very honest. I do understand! LOL Keep telling the truth! 🙂

    on June 29, 2012

    Thanks and I will!

on June 29, 2012

*goes to corner, sits on the floor, with Bible* Let us pray….

    on June 29, 2012

    “Our Father, who art in heaven…”

on June 29, 2012

Hmmmm….that just may be an idea, Darlin!! LOL!!

on June 29, 2012

Thank you!!

on August 9, 2012

Shit, you date a preacher just like you would anyone else. He is still a man, and who said that preachers don't get it on. I know that they are not suppose to, but aint nobody perfect. I think that if GOD has him for ya, he knows your desires, and the intimate stuff can be worked on.

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