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So What You Saying?
What do you say to a friend who is making a big mistake by continuing to date a disrespectful man? A man who is so disrespectful that she is crying when she is telling you the story?
“I’m in a love triangle,” are the words that she said to me. “And they both know about each other.” She went on to explain that the two men were vying for her affection and attention…trying to prove that they are the “better man,” when in actuality, she really shouldn’t be dealing with either one of them but hey,m that’s my opinion. I wrote about one of the guys months ago and low and behold, they got back together. Is she a glutton for punishment? Ummm…you think?
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The other guy sounds like a complete asshole from the way that she described and the stories that she tells me. He is always talking about how much fun they are going to have this summer, spending time on “the boat.” He has been excited about her going with him and his friends and talks about “the boat” all the time. The funny thing is, it turns out that “the boat” actually belongs to his friends. He does not own a boat, all of his friends do but you would have thought that he owned one by the way that he bragged about it.
Let me fast forward to what I THOUGHT was the straw that broke the camels back. My friend decides that she is going to stop dealing with Asshole and it seemed as though it would be amicable. He asked her to stop by, which she agreed to and that’s when things turned left.
He sat her down and started saying things like, “I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a job but is able to buy Coach purses, key chains and a new convertible Volvo.”
What man says that to a woman? It sounds like you are hating and why are you hating on someone who you were with? It doesn’t help that he had been drinking and the saying is true, “A drunk mouth speaks a sober mind,” so you must have felt some kind of way about how she spent HER money for a while. But the show stopper comment was, “Your body ain’t 2 piece ready to go out on the boat anyway!”
” HOLD UP! What did you just say? REALLY!!” Now, I don’t know how she sat through all of this without cussing him out. Her response to all this was, “If you felt this way, was there anything that you liked about me.” He responded, “Yeah, your head game was tight!”
Now while she is telling me all of this, I am driving and handing her tissues because she is crying and still in disbelief that a man that she had spent 8 months with would say things like this to her. I am pissed for a couple of reasons: 1. She is crying, 2. She wasted time with this asshole and 3. She sat there and took this bullshit without saying anything!
Of course, my first reaction was, “Fuck him! You don’t need that shit!” She totally agreed with me and vowed to never speak to him again. AND THEN…
Not even 4 days later, I am hanging out with my girl and her phone rings. It’s asshole! “You’re NOT going to answer that, are you?” She answered and they talked like nothing happened the week before. What the hell?
So you know I have to ask, what in the ENTIRE hell is really going on? She goes on to say that she saw him in traffic earlier that day and “he looked so cute.” Basically they are speaking, again.
I looked at her like she had lost her mind and there wasn’t much that I could say. I mean, what can you say to someone who allows a man to talk to them any kind of way, made them cry and they get back with him. I don’t understand exactly what you two have to talk about ever again in life and why are you settling for bullshit? Of course, I told me friend exactly how I felt and offered advice but at the end of the day, I guess all that you can really do is be there for your friend. Everyone has to make their own decisions and how I would handle a situation is not the same way that everyone else would. Matters of the heart are such a touchy thing.
What advice would you give your friend in this situation?
Have you ever been THAT GIRL who stayed with someone who was wrong for you?
Have you had an experience with a disrespectful man?
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