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Catch Me Elsewhere
Being asked to write this article triggered so many different emotions. It’s forced me to think. Think about the reasons that I’ve chosen to be single. Various reasons come to mind: lack of proper treatment in relationships (communication, quality time with one’s significant other, etc.), males overwhelming desire for sex but cannot & will not share intimacy. These reasons only scratch the surface. Self- reflection has taught me so many things.
Everyone has their story. Mine was that I entrusted my heart to the wrong males and repeatedly got my heart broken. (Of course I now know that none of these circumstances could’ve happened without my role in every situation but nonetheless the trust issues are still prevalent).
Every person’s reasons for their singlehood speaks to them, no matter how positive or negative. So let me take this a step further and say that I’m single because I don’t like what black males have become. What I see before me today, (the unmotivated, disrespectful, etc.) leaves me wondering “Where are the men?” Strength, intelligence, loyalty, honesty and companionship; these are just some of the qualities that I would want in a man if I were interested in dating or a relationship. Apparently, these qualities are now just as rare as a two dollar bill.
I now know my worth. I have a plan for my life. I have businesses and brands to build. I remember a time in my life where my main and only goal was to find love. I was a romanticist, living in dreamland. Love is still at the top of my list but not in the way that you may think. My love for God and myself are the key to the woman I am today.
It’s taken me some time to be okay with being single. There are times when we must stand alone. I take pride in saying that this is mine.
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