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Catch Me Elsewhere
FOMO — a.k.a, Fear Of Missing Out—can keep the best of us from recognizing a good thing when we have it. In today’s world, opportunities are abundant and there’s always a lure of something more.
Let’s face it, we’ve all been at one amazing event and woken up the next day to a plethora of social media postings of a killer event we missed. No matter how great your night was, you can’t help but feel as if you’ve missed out on something big. That same nagging feeling can creep into our dating and relationships and create havoc – causing us to miss out on something real. If you think FOMO may be blocking you from finding your true love, ask yourself the following;
Are you dating back-to-back nights? If so, you may not be giving yourself enough time to let the thoughts and feelings of one date settle in before moving on to the next. Try creating space between dates and events.
Are you on a date with Mr. Big and already thinking about what you could have been doing if you were out with Mr. Bigger? It’s hard to know what Mr. Big has to offer if you’re thinking about someone else the whole time. You may have the perfect situation sitting next to you, but you miss the genuine moment because you thought you should be somewhere else. Don’t put yourself or anyone else in a situation where you are constantly comparing. Everyone loses.
Do you immediately accept a great date, or do you wait hours or days to accept? You may be unknowingly creating a pattern of waiting for something better. If you feel good about the opportunity, then say yes and make the most of it. Trust what makes you happy and stop worrying about something that might appear to be more interesting.
Identifying your patterns of FOMO is crucial to getting and finding your true soul-mate. After all, he may be sitting right next to you! Listen to the moments that are yours and stop worrying about the moments that aren’t. After all, your moments are the only ones that truly matter.
Kelly Green lives in Austin, Texas, and is the author of Back in the Game: My Year of Dating Dangerously, a memoir.