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As a single mom of a pre-teen, I have a ridiculous amount of anxiety about puberty and how to explain it to him. I have no clue where to start, what to say and the first time that he wakes up with “morning wood,” I think I may just pass the hell out. No lie!
Being the resourceful woman who I am, I had to start researching what to expect, what to say and how to handle the entire situation. Here are a few of my findings.
Growing pains…they have been the cause of tears on more than one occasion in my house. At first I didn’t understand the pain that my son was in and although I had heard of growing pains, I wasn’t exactly sure that it was a “real” thing. Based on who you speak to, so people either believe in them or they don’t and some psychologist even say that it’s a mental thing but as a parent who has experienced the pain that their child has felt, I have to say that they are VERY real.
According to Kids Heath.org:
Growing pains are a normal occurrence in about 25% to 40% of children. They generally strike during two periods: in early childhood among 3- to 5-year-olds and, later, in 8- to 12-year-olds.
Growing pains always concentrate in the muscles, rather than the joints. Most kids report pains in the front of their thighs, in the calves, or behind the knees. Joints affected by more serious diseases are swollen, red, tender, or warm — the joints of kids having growing pains look normal.
Although growing pains often strike in late afternoon or early evening before bed, pain can sometimes wake a sleeping child. The intensity of the pain varies from child to child, and most kids don’t have the pains every day.
There is not a concrete timeline to follow when it comes to puberty. Some boys go through it sooner and some boys approach it a little later. For some boys, puberty can come as early as 9, while others as late as 14.
One of the major things that happens during puberty that we, as moms, notice but incredibly, our sons don’t seem to notice is their scent. MY GOD!! There are days when my son walks around like a bag of hot onions and I am beyond surprised that he can not smell that! Introducing deodorant at the age of 6 was a must in my home but doing through a daily check list to include, checking that he has used said deodorant is also a must.
Let’s face it, you are going to have to talk about sex with your child. It is often a conversation that many of us want to avoid for fear that we are telling them too much and they will want to experience it. As a mom, this is something that gives me just as much anxiety but I would rather he hear it from me first and get the facts than hear it in the locker room and get all the wrong information.
I think what’s the most important thing is to keep the lines of communication open and never make your child feel as though they can not come and talk to you about anything. Remember that you have to keep the conversation going and conversation about sex is not a one time thing. As your son get older and mover from junior high to high school and college, you still need to talk about sex and the responsibility that comes along with it.
How do bring up the topic of sex with your boys?
What are some things that moms should remember when it comes to puberty and boys?
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