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It’s an age old question, “Can men and women just be friends?” There seems to be a great divide on this question and it seems that many single people think that men and women can just be friends, while those who are in relationships and/or married believe that men and women can’t be “just ” friends. I take the position that you can be platonic friends with someone of the opposite sex, even if you are in a relationship or married.
According to GQ, in a 2003 study by Heidi Reeder, a communications professor at Boise State, there are four different types of attractions that can arise between friends:
1. Nearly everyone in the study reported feeling “friendship attraction,” pretty much the same thing guy friends would feel towards each other.
2. 14 percent reported “current romantic attraction,” which is defined as the desire to become a couple.
3. One third felt “subjective physical/sexual attraction,” which means they want to get bizzay without actually looking to partner up.
4. More than 50 percent said they felt “objective physical/sexual attraction,” which basically means that they’re not into their friend but they can totally see why others would be.
So basically, one of the “friends” has feelings towards the other according to this study. Now on the other hand, when I asked several men ,”Can men and women just be friends,” the common answer was NO! Men said that they can’t because most men want to have sex with their female friends and if they don’t it’s because she isn’t attractive to them.
Very interesting, right? Let’s check out what Jay has to say on the issue and leave your comments and responses to the questions below.
What are your thoughts?
Can men and women just be friends?
If you are friends with someone of the opposite sex, will it cause problems in your current relationship?