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When a relationship has come to the end of the road, you begin to just “go through the motions.” It’s almost like you become a robot and there are no feeling attached anymore. Some of you may say, “But Ty, I’ve been with my man/woman for so long it seems like we just go through the motions anyway. How do I know if your relationship is over?” Here are 5 ways to know when your relationship is over:
Talking at the dinner table or in the bedroom, no longer happens. It seems that responses have been reduced to one word answers and you really don’t want to hear anything the other has to say. When it get’s to the point where you can’t even talk about the simple day-to-day things, i.e. how your day was, what you want for dinner, etc. the relationship is over.
or vice vera. You used to discuss marriage and kids or where you want to live when you retire and all that good stuff, now there’s talk of girl trip and trips with the boy’s where no significant others are allowed. Lately, you are going out with friends on the weekends or happy hour after work and have even started taking the kids out to do “family stuff” without your partner. If marriage, kids, and anything relating to the future is no longer a point of discussion and when it is brought up, it is quickly pushed to the side, your relationship is over.
There was a time when the two of you couldn’t keep your hands off of one another. Sex was always fun and exciting for the both of you and your physical chemistry was like no other. Now, you don’t even brush against each other as you’re getting ready for work and there is so much distance between the two of you in the bed that a freeway can be built down the middle. When your mate tries to initiate sex, you are immediately turned off and the times that you have “gone through the motions” you were emotionally detached and couldn’t wait for it to end. If this is your situation, I hate to tell you but that is a BIG indicator that the relationship is over.
What used to be bliss is not a shouting match every chance you get. The two of you fight over how dark the toast is to why he chose a certain color tie. You pick a fight whenever possible and you are angry for him just being him and vice versa. You can no longer stand the sight of one another most times than not and each of you have begun to pick fights with the other to try to get the other one to do their dirty work…break up. When things get this bad, the relationship is over.
Love doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t hurt physically or emotionally. It doesn’t make you cry, leave bruises or end with someone in jail. If your relationship involves abuse, needless to say, there is no relationship. Not only is your relationship over but it is imperative that you get out asap!
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