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I was speaking with a male friend who brought up an issue that I have actually heard from several men. His premise was that chivalry is dead and no one “courts” anymore. He went on to say that dating in this day and age is an investment and that after 3 dates at approximately $100 to $200 each, by the third date, this woman better be “his” woman or giving up the goods. He argued that after spending almost $1000 on a woman, that he had made his investment in her. I have to laugh at his point of view because I thought it was just a bunch of BS but because I had heard the same thing from several men, I have to wonder if there is some validity to his point?
After taking some time to ponder his point of view, I would have to say, “NO! There isn’t any validity to that point!” I argue the fact that although a man may be investing money, women are investing time of which we can never get back. Men can always make more money but time…that’s a done deal. I will have to say that you usually know after the first or at the least, the second date, if you are interested in a man. Actually, I know after the first conversation, so we may never get to the first date…but that’s just me. As far as getting the goods…is $1000 all that we are worth? Fool, please!!
I will agree with the statement that people don’t “court” anymore. Hell, truth be told, people don’t even date anymore. I wrote a post about men wanting to come over and hang out and after talking to several women it seems that somewhere down the line, it become acceptable of someone who you are not even a relationship with to come “hang out” at your house?
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Are men not asking women out on dates because they are not willing to “invest” in that woman? Could it be that they are asking to come over because they don’t think that you are worth the “investment” but that they are willing to have sex with you with no investment or don’t have the money to make that “investment?”
Maybe the lack of willingness to make that investment is the reason that so many of my friends and I are not dating anyone. It seems as though men want to ‘hang out” but are not willing to go the extra mile to actually take a woman out nowadays.
I am not saying that a man has to spend money in order to get to know me. I’m lying, you have to spend some money…I’m sorry! If a man suggested that he comes over to my house or I go over to his house on the first or second date, there will be no first or second date. Honestly, it’s gonna take a WHOLE LOTTA dates before you can come hang out over my house but the suggestion would get you the ax. It’s just not going to happen! A woman likes to feel as though she is a queen and be spoiled and all that good stuff. I’m sure to that point, some men will argue, “How do I know that your even worth all that?” Answer: “if you didn’t think that I was worth all that, you would not have talked to me in the first place.”
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So what is a girl to do now a days? Why has it become so difficult to meet and date a man? Shows like Sex in the City make it look so easy to meet and date a slew of men. In reality, that is not the case or maybe I’m living in the wrong city. Whatever the case may be, finding a man to make the ‘investment” without expecting something may just be a shot in the dark.
Ladies, do people still date or court now a days?
Do you believe that you “owe” a man something if he takes you out more than once?
Do you believe that you are investing in a man with your time?
Men, do you still date/court women?
Do you feel like a woman owes you something after you have taken her out a couple of times?