Have you ever been in a relationship where you argued over things that you thought were so important, but at the end of the day it was a bunch of bullshit? There has been too many times where I have seen people go at each other for some of the most foolish things you could think of. Yes, everyone has their feelings and opinions on different situations and subjects when it comes to their relationships, but is it really worth the argument?
When you are in a relationship, you are not going to see everything the same way, nor should you. This is what makes people different…we do have our own brains, you know? Sometimes we get so caught up on how we would like things or people to be, and if they do not act or do as we please, its time to throw down. My question is just…who the hell do you think you are? I mean you cannot change your mate, you have to let them be them. Don’t get me wrong, you still deserve to be respected, but some of that bullshit that you are complaining about is for the birds.
For example, there are some women who are sick and tired of their men hanging out with his buddies all of the time. However, her man loves her to death, handles his business, and she can trust him. Now she finds herself arguing every time he is with his buddies, and it just turns into a disaster. Both of them are unhappy and he is not going to change, and if he does, he will only do so to shut her up.
Now ask yourself this, was that really hurting you? Is he mistreating you simply because he likes to hang with the fellas? I mean, he might need to tone it down a notch, but is it really that serious? It’s the same for us guys, we create problems with our woman knowing damn well she will do anything to please us.
My point is that you do not want to run someone away because you cannot always get things the way you want them. You have to learn how to accept things about your mate if you want to be with them. If they make you happy, you better learn how to shut the F up sometimes. Make sure that you are being respected, but at the same time, if what they are doing is not disrespecting you, let it be. I much rather have mines and disagree with some of her ways than to not have her in my life at all. I think that a lot of relationships end because of petty things. If your man or woman is not cheating on you, treats you right, and makes you feel good, you better shut the hell up. Pickings are real slim right now, you just might get what you ask for and then some. We, as humans can be quite selfish at times, so make sure that you remember this, you are not all that perfect ya damn self.